I have always strived to live the best life possible that would bring me happiness and peace of mind. I also love to inspire others to do the same thing. It has not always been easy to do. Although finding joy and happiness comes down to very basic and simple acts… we are often challenged emotionally which makes it difficult to focus on those simple things. I realize that simple and basic isn’t always so easy to accomplish. When we recognize our failures and shortcomings, we become determined not to remain in that state of mind which brings us no peace. Our determination will allow us to succeed in creating the best life for ourselves and those around us.
Below are just a few of the simple things I have learned in my own personal life.
We all have to make decisions in life and sometimes the decisions we make are good, but there are times when they are not so good. I’ve learned that both play a big part in our life’s journey. Sometimes the bad decisions we make are part of a learning curve that will allow us to appreciate it even more when we finally get it right. When we fall we learn to rise up stronger than ever. The most important thing we have to remember is to never give up and keep moving forward.
Live your life without any expectations from others. Quite often, people will let us down without intending to. By placing your expectations on others to achieve a happy life, you are just setting yourself up for disappointments and that will lead to pain. Expectations will hurt. Life is short so learn to love your life no matter what you may be experiencing. Be determined to see the blessings in every situation you experience. Live life for yourself and do your best to follow the following rules that are basic common sense. Sometimes, we just need to be reminded.
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Learn to listen before you speak. Assumptions often lead to so many misunderstandings.
Take time to think before you write. Our emotional nature will often take over especially with social media and we tend to write exactly what we are feeling. It is always good to take time to just pause, calm your thoughts and think before you write. Once you hit that “send” button you can’t undo it.
You have to Earn before you can Spend. Too often in life we are in search of instant gratification and we will spend more than what we are taking in. This isn’t inclusive to just financial. There are times when our expectations of what we think society owes us surpasses reality. You have to earn your rights to everything you expect out of life. Don’t just expect things to happen without any effort on your part.
Before you take action to hurt someone-learn to feel. Once again, in order to accomplish this you have to learn to stop and think before you react. Know the facts and put yourself in that person’s shoes. Compassion, sympathy and empathy will always lead your heart to peace.
Never give up without even trying. You will never know just what you are capable of accomplishing if you quit before you even try.
Give Love a chance. Learn to love before you hate. Love will always be the light that overcomes the darkness of hate.
Live before you die. Life is filled with so many opportunities to do good, to live happy, and to make our life worthwhile as we welcome each new day. We only have this life to make a difference. Let’s make it the best that it can be. Smile, Love and be just be happy. Only you can choose the path you want your life to take.
Peace is so much better than being right. Select your battles carefully. There will be times when peace of mind in life means allowing others to find their own way to truth.
Be true to yourself, don’t live to impress. Reach a point in your life where you have no need to impress anybody. That is when your true freedom will begin.
Surround yourself with those who share your vision. Removing the wrong people from your life will allow room for the right people to enhance your life.
Remember that you’re only human. Cry, get angry, feel hurt… allow yourself to have a meltdown, but don’t allow yourself to remain in that state of mind. Remember to refocus on your goals and go after your dreams. Overcoming hardships rebuilds our strengths and determination.
Know when to remain silent. There are moments when responding to something by being silent is the best answer. Silence can never be misquoted.
Recognize what a mistake really is. Making a mistake is accidental. But cheating, lying and stealing are not mistakes, they are bad choices you decide to make on purpose.
Do for others without expecting the same in return. Don’t expect anyone to do for you the things that you do for them. It will only lead to disappointment and pain. Remember that not everyone has the same heart or intentions that you do. Do for others if it makes you feel good about yourself and because you truly care. Remember that life is an echo and what you send out will always come back to you.
Be careful who you confide in. Remember there are always wolves in sheep clothing. Not everyone will have your best interest at heart. There will be times when a listening ear will turn into a running mouth.
Don’t feel the need to explain yourself to others. Not everyone is going to understand your life’s journey. Everyone has a different level of perception and often their level of perception will not coincide with yours.
Do Not Live your Life to please others. There are times when we experience stress, anxiety, and depression in our attempt to please those around us and those we love in our life. The common saying that “you can’t please everyone” is a fact. So all you can do is what is best for you and continue to show love to those who feel disappointed.
And from a Native American Proverb:
“Listen to the wind… it speaks a message to you. Listen to the silence… It speaks to your heart. Listen to your heart…. It knows your soul.”
Life isn’t always an easy path to travel on. Our connection and relationships with those around us often make living our best life quite a challenge. Negativity tends to be a constant force that tries to block our path to happiness. It takes a lot of determination too overcomes these challenges. Just remember these words that many of us have heard throughout our lives…
“Loyalty is hard to find; Trust is easy to lose and your actions always speak much louder than your words.”
Realize that quite often you are only one step and one decision away from living the life you choose. Your determination will depend on your level of success or failure. Doing what is best for you and for your life’s journey does not mean you have to tolerate disrespect from others. Know your boundaries and don’t falter from it. Remember one of the things I already mentioned…. true freedom is reaching a point where you don’t care what other people think of you. Maintain your boundaries peacefully and respectfully.
And finally, one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself is to never forget who was there for you when nobody else was.
Life is Beautiful! Live it in peace and happiness.